On Trust and Relations




on Trust and Relations to others 


I learnt to distinguish 3 categories of trust:

  • capability trust
  • character trust
  • vulnerability trust 
  • [empty category]


Capability trust is easy to comprehend, for example after seeing John’s work, what he can can do, and his credentials, I trust him as a master builder. Professionally reliable.


Character trust is something we experience, for example, after years of going to same school and later serving alongside  Mary, I trust her with my kids and my money. Reliable and responsible.


Vulnerability trust is the most difficult, it is the level where I can share a secret or expose a weakness of myself to another person. Confidant / Confidante نديم - نجى


The draft graph is how the above relates to our relations with people around us.


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